| 摘要: | 研究背景與研究目的：本研究主要以臺灣地區參與過婚前輔導的兩對已婚夫妻為受訪對象，試圖瞭解其婚前輔導及婚姻調適經驗。為達上述目的，本研究採取質性研究的方法，以半結構式訪談的方式，探討兩對年齡介於30至40歲之間，婚齡為4至5年的研究參與者之經驗，並借用編碼技術來歸納整理資料，得到本研究結果。
研究結果：
1. 兩對夫妻參與婚前輔導的契機包括「教會提供的免費服務」、「瞭解彼此的適配性」、「透過第三者堅固伴侶在一起的信心」、「伴侶的邀約」、「伴侶為專業相關人員」、「年齡的差距」、「期待對婚後生活有所助益」、「期待能有預防的功能」、「有適當的切入點可以討論婚後生活的經營」、「期待伴侶瞭解婚姻家庭生活的經營」。
2. 兩對夫妻的婚前輔導討論內容，共同包含有「關係因應技巧」、「對彼此的瞭解」、「處理負向狀況的策略」、「維護關係的技能」、「經濟脈絡」、「原生家庭」。
3. 本研究指出，兩對夫妻的婚姻調適議題主要可以分為兩大類，一類是與原生家庭相處衍生而來的夫妻衝突，另外一類是發生在夫妻之間的相處問題。前者包括婆媳相處、夾在伴侶與原生家庭之間的議題；後者包括夫妻對於共同生活習慣的認知落差。
4. 兩對夫妻的婚姻調適因應策略隱含積極與和諧的信念。兩對夫妻在婚姻調適歷程中所使用的因應策略，皆傾向採取個人外的積極策略。
5. 本研究指出，婚前輔導經驗在兩對夫妻的婚姻關係中扮演輔助性的角色，伴侶藉由彼此對於婚姻生活的想像、規劃與討論，瞭解伴侶未來在婚姻生活中的樣貌與態度，及可接受的因應策略，是屬於「明理」的過程，然而，兩對夫妻在因應婚姻生活中所發生的衝突時，則容易出現「知易行難」的情況。
Background and Purpose: The subjects of this study are two couples in Taiwan who have participated in the premarital counseling in an attempt to share their experience about premarital counseling and marriage adjustment. This study adopts the qualitative method combined with a semi-structured interview to discuss the experience of the two couples at their thirties who have been married for 4 to 5 years, and then adopts the coding technique to get the research results.
Research Results:
I． There are a lot of reasons why the two couples decided to participated in the premarital counseling, which includes the free service offered by the church, their suitability for each other, their confidence to be together, an invitation from their mates, the professions of their mates, their difference in age, their expectations for the marriage counseling, a prevention of marital problems, a perfect opportunity to discuss relationship management after marriage, and making their mates know and understand how to manage a family after marriage.
II． The discussions of both couples in the premarital counseling covered relationship handling, understanding of each other, and strategies on coping with negative situations, maintenance tips for the relationship, economic context and family of origin.
III． This research shows that the topics of the two couples’ marriage adjustments can mainly be classified into two categories: One is the marital conflicts from living with their family of origin; the other is the problems between the couple themselves. The former contains the life between the mother in law and the daughter in law as well as the topic between the couple and the family of origins. While the latter contains the disappointments from the different living habits perceived about their symbiosis.
IV． The adaptive strategies of the two couples’ marriage adjustments show a positive and harmonious principle. They both tend to use the positive strategies except the individuals during the process of marriage adjustment.
V． This study shows that the experience gained from premarital counseling acts as the aids in the marital relationships of the two couples. The mate will know how his/her partner will look and act during their marital life in the future as well as their acceptability in handling strategies by their mutual imagination, planning and discussions about their marital lives, which is a process in reaching a mutual agreement. However, when the two couples deal with the conflicts that they might encounter in their marital life, they will easily get into the situations that are easy to realize, but are difficult to deal with. |
