二、父親心理缺席下母女關係之變化：夫妻關係透過第三人的介入來緩解關係中的焦慮與張力，甚至採迂迴方式來表達對對方的不滿或其他。當其中一方反應激烈，另一方則冷漠應對。母女關係也因而逐漸形成同盟，親子關係界限變得模糊，且孩子對離家分化出現丟下母之愧疚。此外，手足在不同情況下輪流扮演家庭空缺的角色，彼此可能為了獲取父或母的關注而發生激烈衝突。對父親角色的認同與不認同，除了與父親個人特質有關外，其在家中的功能轉變，也使母女產生認知與期待落差，於是內在矛盾糾結的情緒，慢慢匯集成流，並在家庭裡發酵為往後關係埋下伏筆。
The research explores the impact of the psychological father absence on the development of family relationships, from the systematic perspectives of a mother and daughters, to understand the uniqueness and significance of their family relationships.
The research adopts the narrative inquiry of the qualitative research method. Through semi-structured in-depth interviews, a mother and two daughters were invited to subjectively express their opinions about the effects of father's psychological absence on their family relationship. The data was collected and presented through dyadic analysis and the research findings are as follows.
1.There were some changes before and after the father's psychological absence in the family. The family system had developed a unique set of the interactive model to deal with the father, who was like the free will of the wind. The physical absence of the father also altered the individual roles in the family relationship and the subsystem. To keep a balanced family system, the father’s role in the family had gradually faded or disappeared in the hearts of the mother and daughters as time passed. Owing to the expectation of complete family in Chinese culture, the role of a father was still occupied to accord with the traditional social norm.
2.There were a few variations in the relationship between the mother and daughters due to the father's psychological absence. The intensity and anxiety between the husband and wife were relieved through the intervention of a third person. Additionally, the couple even adopted indirect ways to express their dissatisfaction or other emotions. When one’s reaction was strong, the other one would respond indifferently. Hence, the mother-daughter relationships had gradually allied, and the boundaries between parents and children had become blurred. The children also felt guilty about leaving their mother due to the individuation from the family. Besides, the siblings played absent roles in different situations for the family, and it probably led to serious arguments between them for getting the parents' attention. The mother and daughters approved or disapproved of the father’s role were not only related to the father’s personality traits but the change of father's function in the family. The reasons above caused the mother and daughters to have gaps in cognition and expectation to the father's role. Therefore, their contradictory emotions were like rivers slowly merged and would have an influence on future relationships.
